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Kim Kardashian West is known for breaking the Internet with nude photographs, for launching an entire empire off a leaked sex tape, and for expertly turning fame and fortune into more fame and fortune. But her most recent news was harrowing: She was bound up and locked in the bathroom of her hotel in Paris as men reportedly stole $10 million worth of jewelry.
The robbery alone is a horrific reminder of the daily violence women are forced to endure. Kardashian West reportedly feared she would be raped, pleaded with the men to consider that she was a mother with children to take care of, and eventually had her mouth taped shut because she was making noise. But what is also terrifying is the way many people seem to be blaming her for being robbed. It’s troubling that commenters on news articles about the crime suggest Kardashian West’s sexuality and “oversharing” are responsible for the robbery, some saying she had it coming for being so showy and sexual, others suggesting that the robbery is a publicity stunt that she facilitated.
A comment on a New York Times article covering the robbery says, “She was presumably tied up and gagged and they found her that way.” Another on an article on PAPER says, “Should had killed her We don’t need a cheap hoe any more.” These people are reveling in Kardashian West’s pain as if it is long-awaited retribution for terrible crimes she committed against each of them personally.
It is true, though not excusable, that comments on the internet are often hyperbolic hatred facilitated by anonymity and distance. But, in Kardashian West’s case, the criticism of her character—rather than of, say, the men who threatened the security guard at her hotel, tied her up, held her at gunpoint, and stole millions of dollars of jewelry from her—is not just coming from anonymous commenters. Fashion editors and journalists, people who supposedly have professional relationships with the Kardashians, have also weighed in, saying things like:
“She sat right across from me at the Givenchy show and there were guys coming up and taking photos of her and people taking pictures of her. It felt really kind of exposed. If there had been a shooting at a fashion show, I wouldn’t have been surprised because the whole situation felt sort of out of control.”
Karl Lagerfeld—the head designer of Chanel, one of the world’s top luxury brands known for its extravagant runway shows—ironically said of the incident, “You cannot display your wealth and then be surprised that some people want to share it with you.”
These kinds of comments make me wonder how Kardashian West’s outspoken sexuality plays a role in people not seeing her as a victim. Though she has one of the largest audiences of any celebrity before her (because, in part, anyone with a smartphone has a bigger audience than the people before them), Kardashian West is not the first person to aggressively pursue celebrity, nor is she the first to revel in wealth. Taylor Swift has curated a squad of thin, rich, blonde models and actresses who regularly post images of their larger-than-life escapades at her Rhode Island mansion. Posters with Andy Warhol quotes lauding the benefits of wealth will forever decorate the gift shops of every art museum and the rooms of artsy 15-year-olds across the nation.
Why is it, then, that Kardashian West’s iteration of fame is somehow seen as so uniquely vile that she seemingly deserves to be attacked and tied up, robbed of her possessions, fearing for her life? Kardashian West, who has expertly found ways to gain followers and make money off her own image in video games, emojis, and social media, is somehow hated for “being famous for doing nothing” while also blamed for manufacturing a brand dependent on overexposure.
What she has really done is show that the labor often expected of women for the benefit of others—wearing makeup, understanding and talking about emotions, cultivating beauty, growing and caring for a family—can captivate huge audiences and is worthy of compensation. In particular, Kardashian West photographs, draws, and publicly references her body and her sexuality, sharing intimacies that are expected to be looked upon by others but never explicitly referenced by her. Her sexuality, and how she has chosen to provide it as a supply for a very real demand, in the process accruing wealth and fame, is seen as a threat that leads to the kinds of hateful comments that fashion editors and internet trolls made after her robbery.
It is not just troubling, then, that even wealth and privilege do not fully protect women from being bound up and from fearing their bodily autonomy will be stolen from them. It is also troubling that response to this violence is that women who succeed because of, rather than in spite of, their bodies and their complexities have claimed power that is not theirs to claim.
And, it is important to note, it is not just Kardashian West’s sexuality that is a threat. Her inability to be categorized, her propensity to share—at times her body, but also literally everything about herself—was also widely critiqued after the robbery. Women who choose to expose themselves, who cry on camera, and who tell us about their bodily insecurities, while also loving sex and vowing to take nude selfies til they die, cannot be boiled down to “chill girl” or “manic pixie dream girl” or “cold-hearted bitch” by other people. Therefore, they are not supposed to make it onto magazine covers and high fashion events and household conversations. They are not supposed to take up space with their complexity and their desires, and if they do, they deserve any negative attention they might get.
This is how we are taught that “If you are female, and you are talking, you are at risk.” This is how we learn to feel guilty for being, wanting, showing too much, in ways that cannot be anticipated. In this imposed guilt, our own bodies are taken from us.
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“If you are female, and you
enforced existence replied on
“If you are female, and you are talking, you are at risk.”
Sorry, it is worse - talking or not talking, having sexuality or not - NO ESCAPE!
This is so well-written.
Sareeta Lopez replied on
This is so well-written. Thanks for writing this. All I really know about Kim is that her start was her tape, and anything else I've learned is from random episodes of Keeping Up With the Kardashians that my mom used to watch when I was in high school. I know that a lot of people judge her and her family for being superficial, and for caring too much about their appearances... I imagine Kim has done a lot of work to get where she is, though, because otherwise every one could be become a celebrity because of a sex tape. It just doesn't work that way.
But even if it did — if she had "done nothing" and that's how she got her fame — then all the power to her! She's an inspiration. There's too much negativity sent women's way for being "too" concerned with their appearances, what others think, or even being too insecure. Her nakedness goes beyond her nudity, and that's something I think many women wish they could do.
"It is also troubling that response to this violence is that women who succeed because of, rather than in spite of, their bodies and their complexities have claimed power that is not theirs to claim." This quote really resonated with me. Why shouldn't she use her body to achieve success, when in fact society tells women that their body is all they have to give?
Kim is not to blame at all!
Melanie Kendrick replied on
Hi, I have been “Keeping Up With The Kardashians” ever since their showed first aired in 2007. I was only about 10 years old at the time. I remember growing up watching the show with my family and actually seeing Kim as a role model. Obviously, I don’t agree with Kim’s sex tape. However, everyone makes mistakes in life and what she did with her life afterward says more about her than that one very big mistake. She took something that could have ruined her for the rest of her life and built a whole empire out of it not just for herself, but for her whole family as well. Kim has been known to post very controversial pictures and be very open about her body. Especially since she has had children. I prided Kim even more for getting in such amazing shape after having her two children. I saw Kim gain a lot of weight during pregnancy and I was like, “How is she ever going to get her body back?” She did though and I was so proud of her. I know she had to be very proud of herself as well, because it takes a lot of working getting in that good of shape after having children. Therefore, I completely understood why she would want to post revealing pictures of her body again. Many people said she should not do that because she has children now. I disagree completely. I feel that Kim being so comfortable with her body is empowering. Obviously, Kim is small and fit, but she is not bone thin like many celebrities. She has curves. Kim shows that having a butt and boobs is completely okay and being comfortable in your own skin is even more okay. Now when it comes to her showing off her wealth as well as her body. I don’t blame Kim for that either. She has worked hard to get the kind of lifestyle she has now, regardless of what anyone else says. So if she wants to Instagram pictures of herself in expensive clothes and jewelry, more power to her. It’s what she’s worked for and achieved in life, no matter how she managed to do it. Like you said, Taylor Swift and plenty of other celebrities post Instagram pictures revealing their wealth. I feel that many people are simply just jealous of Kim, which is ridiculous. I don’t know why more people can’t just be supportive of people and happy for people, but that’s another discussion. Now for how people are trying to blame her for the robbery, that infuriates me! I do not believe that was a publicity stunt and I do not feel that Kim is to blame at all. This is almost like how people will blame a woman dressed revealingly on the weekends for getting raped. Nobody should be blamed for being robbed, sexually assaulted, abused, etc. for any reason. It is never their fault. If this had happened to almost any other celebrity, people would not once try to blame the celebrity for it. You have made a very good point about how women’s bodies are almost being taken from them. In my opinion, Kim Kardashian is a strong woman that can be looked at as a role model and she is not to blame for what happened to her in any way. The people who are trying to blame her in a way are being completely ridiculous and it worries me to think that many people believe that way.
Kim is not to blame at all!
Melanie Kendrick replied on
Hi, I have been “Keeping Up With The Kardashians” ever since their showed first aired in 2007. I was only about 10 years old at the time. I remember growing up watching the show with my family and actually seeing Kim as a role model. Obviously, I don’t agree with Kim’s sex tape. However, everyone makes mistakes in life and what she did with her life afterward says more about her than that one very big mistake. She took something that could have ruined her for the rest of her life and built a whole empire out of it not just for herself, but for her whole family as well. Kim has been known to post very controversial pictures and be very open about her body. Especially since she has had children. I prided Kim even more for getting in such amazing shape after having her two children. I saw Kim gain a lot of weight during pregnancy and I was like, “How is she ever going to get her body back?” She did though and I was so proud of her. I know she had to be very proud of herself as well, because it takes a lot of working getting in that good of shape after having children. Therefore, I completely understood why she would want to post revealing pictures of her body again. Many people said she should not do that because she has children now. I disagree completely. I feel that Kim being so comfortable with her body is empowering. Obviously, Kim is small and fit, but she is not bone thin like many celebrities. She has curves. Kim shows that having a butt and boobs is completely okay and being comfortable in your own skin is even more okay. Now when it comes to her showing off her wealth as well as her body. I don’t blame Kim for that either. She has worked hard to get the kind of lifestyle she has now, regardless of what anyone else says. So if she wants to Instagram pictures of herself in expensive clothes and jewelry, more power to her. It’s what she’s worked for and achieved in life, no matter how she managed to do it. Like you said, Taylor Swift and plenty of other celebrities post Instagram pictures revealing their wealth. I feel that many people are simply just jealous of Kim, which is ridiculous. I don’t know why more people can’t just be supportive of people and happy for people, but that’s another discussion. Now for how people are trying to blame her for the robbery, that infuriates me! I do not believe that was a publicity stunt and I do not feel that Kim is to blame at all. This is almost like how people will blame a woman dressed revealingly on the weekends for getting raped. Nobody should be blamed for being robbed, sexually assaulted, abused, etc. for any reason. It is never their fault. If this had happened to almost any other celebrity, people would not once try to blame the celebrity for it. You have made a very good point about how women’s bodies are almost being taken from them. In my opinion, Kim Kardashian is a strong woman that can be looked at as a role model and she is not to blame for what happened to her in any way. The people who are trying to blame her in a way are being completely ridiculous and it worries me to think that many people believe that way.
I really appreciated this
Grace Ji replied on
I really appreciated this article because it touched upon a recent major news topic and the issue of violence against women. The interesting part of this event was that so many people blamed Kim Kardashian for being robbed and having this violent attack happen to her. It highlights on the bigger issue that in cases of sexual assault or other violence against women, people quickly ask “what were they wearing” or “were they acting in a sexual manner” as if any of these are valid reasons that a woman should ever be attacked. The victim blaming that had happened to Kim Kardashian after the event was absolutely terrible because research shows that victim blaming makes it harder for the victim to come forward and report the abuse. Therefore, all the women who were sexually assaulted and saw this event on the news and the comments that blamed Kim for the attack probably felt marginalized and discouraged. Kim Kardashian also told People magazine that she blames herself for the attack because she flaunted her wealth so much but does this mean that a successful and wealthy woman in the world can’t flaunt their wealth anymore out of the fear that they might be attacked. So many wealthy people, many who are celebrities, take to social media to show off their wealth including Taylor Swift as this blog post has mentioned. It is unfair that the public gives Kardashian a harder time because of her choice to show off her sexuality more. I thought it was ridiculous how in a Times article they asked why Kardashian was alone. All these little comments that surfaced after this incident went on to support the prevalence of gender scripts that still very much exists in our society and the negative impacts of victim blaming does to individuals.
I really appreciated this
Grace Ji replied on
I really appreciated this article because it touched upon a recent major news topic and the issue of violence against women. The interesting part of this event was that so many people blamed Kim Kardashian for being robbed and having this violent attack happen to her. It highlights on the bigger issue that in cases of sexual assault or other violence against women, people quickly ask “what were they wearing” or “were they acting in a sexual manner” as if any of these are valid reasons that a woman should ever be attacked. The victim blaming that had happened to Kim Kardashian after the event was absolutely terrible because research shows that victim blaming makes it harder for the victim to come forward and report the abuse. Therefore, all the women who were sexually assaulted and saw this event on the news and the comments that blamed Kim for the attack probably felt marginalized and discouraged. Kim Kardashian also told People magazine that she blames herself for the attack because she flaunted her wealth so much but does this mean that a successful and wealthy woman in the world can’t flaunt their wealth anymore out of the fear that they might be attacked. So many wealthy people, many who are celebrities, take to social media to show off their wealth including Taylor Swift as this blog post has mentioned. It is unfair that the public gives Kardashian a harder time because of her choice to show off her sexuality more. I thought it was ridiculous how in a Times article they asked why Kardashian was alone. All these little comments that surfaced after this incident went on to support the prevalence of gender scripts that still very much exists in our society and the negative impacts of victim blaming does to individuals
Of course, I was immediately
Ashleigh Lesniak replied on
Of course, I was immediately interested because I had known about the incident but this post title took me for a turn. People were actually blaming Kim Kardashian for her own robbery? I was blown. Even if you have no respect for the Kardashians and who they are as a family you should at least expect women and their bodies.These critics are blaming her because of her "oversharing" of sexuality in the media? In essence, they are blaming her because she shows too much of her body through her social media accounts and public appearances.
There are so many women who embrace their sexuality such as Lady Gaga, Demi Lovato, and Beyonce. Women embracing their sexuality is becoming more and more common and for sure more empowering for the rest of us. As women the least we could do is respect this in one another.
This post made me think back to a video that we watched in my Women and Gender Studies Class about the women who walked through the streets of New York to show how men talk at women. We then followed up with the video about the guy blaming her for all the comments she received because she was wearing tight jeans and a tight shirt and therefore she "had it coming to her." Women are blamed time and time again for the way men treat them. They are told that if they show too much of their body or wear certain clothes then they should expect men to disrespect them.
I feel for Kim because I know that if I were in her situation, being bound and robbed, I too would be scared for my life. She was thinking about her kids not having a mom and her critics are basically saying "oh well maybe you shouldn't have got yourself into this situation." It is by no means fair that women are blamed for the crimes that are brought against them. In conclusion, Kim is being blamed for her crime because she lives in a woman's body. Just being in a woman's body means you are showing more than you should be.
This article wraps up with a social script that I think all of us as women face; If you are female, and you are talking, you are at risk. This social script teaches us to feel guilty about being, wanting, and showing too much of ourselves. It teaches us to feel guilty about showing and even living in our bodies. We are scrutinized because of our bodies.
Be strong Kim!
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