Douchebag Decree: Shitty Media Man Continues to Be Shitty

Stephen Elliott

Stephen Elliott in 2013 (Photo credit: Larry D. Moore)

On Wednesday, writer Stephen Elliott filed a lawsuit against Shitty Media Men list creator Moira Donegan. Though Elliott refers repeatedly to the list being “published,” it was actually a Google Sheet emailed amongst colleagues. Elliot’s entry in the list included “rape accusations, sexual harassment, coercion,” so he’s seeking $1.5 million in damages for the harm he’s suffered since the list went live. It’s hard to keep track of time these days, and though it’s felt like a million years, the Shitty Media Men list was created only a year ago. Elliott believes he deserves that much money for the damages he’s suffered in one year. These damages occurred mostly, it seems, because his book did not sell as well as he’d hoped. From the actual lawsuit:

Stephen Elliott's book sales

Stephen Elliott's book sales (Image credit: Scribd)

Elliott wants to collect these damages not only from Donegan, but from others who contributed to the open-access Google Sheet. And he wants them to be tracked down via their IP addresses so that he can find out who said what about him, and then they can be added to the lawsuit.

The main point of Elliott’s lawsuit is that there’s no way he should be on the list of shitty media men because he’s into BDSM. You read that right.

Stephen Elliott's preferences

Stephen Elliott's preferences (Image credit: Scribd)

He later clarifies, that yes, he meant BDSM:

Stephen Elliott's preferences

Stephen Elliott's preferences (Image credit: Scribd)

Being into BDSM doesn’t make you not a sexual harasser! Conflating consensual sexual behavior with inappropriate professional conduct is the neverending hat trick of those accused of the latter. But that’s not how it works. Harassment and sexually predatory behavior, especially in the workplace, is not comparable to past consensual behavior.

Elliott also argues that he deserves all this money because his name was included on the Shitty Media Men list to intentionally damage him.

Stephen Elliott lawsuit

Stephen Elliott's reputation and career (Image credit: Scribd)

The Shitty Media Men list was not created to damage the reputation and career of anyone listed. It was a version of a whisper network that women used to warn other women about bad experiences they’d had within their professional circles. It’s not about the shitty men—it was created to help women working in the media industry avoid the shitty men and not have shitty experiences.

Last month, Elliott published an essay titled “How an Anonymous Allegation Derailed My Life,” in which he denied the allegations and described the effects the list has had on his life, just like Jian Ghomeshi and John Hockenberry before him. And it seems that Elliott has an interesting choice of attorneys on his side: Andrew Miltenberg, who frequently defends men accused of sexual misconduct. Miltenberg defended Paul Nungesser, who Emma Sulkowicz accused of rape in April 2013. So far Elliott’s suit is the only legal action that’s arisen from the list, but Miltenberg’s involvement in the case isn’t a good sign.

These shitty media men are pushing their stories back into the public square, rewriting context and details to elicit sympathy, and now, actually demanding financial redress for harm suffered. It’s a sickening replay of Judge Brett Kavanaugh’s confirmation hearings, in which the abuse suffered by Dr. Christine Blasey Ford was reframed into a horrible injustice done to Kavanaugh.

In these #MeToo backlash narratives, with the help of editors and lawyers, men are given the space—on the page, in the courts—to carefully craft their response to the past year. But why should we believe they’re telling the truth just because they’re trying to get the last word?


by Dahlia Balcazar
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Dahlia Balcazar was a senior editor at Bitch Media, the co-host of the podcast Backtalk, and the host of the live show Feminist Snack Break. She’s passionate about horror films, ’90s music, girl gangs, and Shirley Jackson. You can follow her on Instagram and Twitter.