Opening Wounds“Heart Berries” Is the Coming of Age Manifesto for Native American Girls

“I don’t think I can forgive myself for my compassion.” — Terese Marie Mailhot, Heart Berries

Women of color are often considered to be too much. Too angry. Too emotional. Too difficult. In “The Uses of Anger: Women Responding to Racism,” scholar and poet Audre Lorde observed the suppression of emotion, particularly anger, as an act of white supremacy. She argued that only by naming and writing our emotions into being can we truly challenge white supremacist and capitalist norms. “Every woman has a well-stocked arsenal of anger potentially useful against those oppressions, personal and institutional, which brought that anger into being,” she wrote. “Focused with precision it can become a powerful source of energy serving progress and change.”

Terese Mailhot’s debut memoir, Heart Berries, is a book for women who are learning to navigate anger. It is a story of how Mailhot’s mental illness disrupted her relationships; a reckoning with childhood trauma and abuse; and an introspective and purposeful push back against the notion of being unmanageable and “too much.” American Indians face higher rates of mental illness than white Americans, and PTSD in particular is strikingly high in American Indian communities. Understanding the impacts of colonialism and ongoing violence against Native communities—which impacts stigma for speaking out, access to culturally relevant services and more—is essential when discussing contemporary mental health.

Mailhot captures those layers in Heart Berries by exploring how losing custody of her eldest son, Isadore, and entering into turbulent relationships with men helps trigger bouts with mental illness. After one of her more intense break-ups, she checks herself into a psychiatric facility, where she is diagnosed with bipolar II, Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder, and an eating disorder.

Terese Marie Mailhot and Heart Berries

From left to right: Terese Marie Mailhot and Heart Berries (Photo credit: Institute of American Indian Arts and Counterpoint Press)

In the “Your Black Eye and My Birth” chapter, Mailhot discovers that she’s pregnant with her third child and has to stop taking her medication. She describes her external behaviors—yelling at her son for no reason, picking at her scalp until she bled—in relation to her internal fears, observing that “I couldn’t distinguish the symptoms from my heart. It was polarizing to be told there was a diagnosis for the behaviors I felt justified in having. And then, I knew some part of my disease was spiritual or inherited.” First Nations scholar Rachel Flowers believes that anger has transformative power when born out of love for your family, community, and land. Flowers says that it is imperative to recognize that “the presence of our resentment reveals ongoing harm and a desire for freedom,” and that framing Indigenous people’s resistance only in terms of love centers settler yearnings for forgiveness.

The dismissal of “negative” feelings—whether anger, pain, or fear—persists in political and public as well as personal relationships. Explicitly discussing mental health and anger as Mailhot does combats systems meant to keep us silent about our pain and internal struggles. She uses her story to intentionally empower American Indian women who are navigating pain and mental illness. Mailhot achieves this by openly dissecting the impact that mental illness has on her relationships: For instance, she justifies hurting her boyfriend Casey when she’s angry with him because she can’t “manage” her symptoms at home as she does in public, but also worries about turning into her abusive father.

For Mailhot, writing is a space of reflection and reclamation. Interestingly, two of the book’s chapters were originally published as fiction: “Indian Sick” outlines her time in the mental health hospital while “Heart Berries” explores the beginning of her turbulent affair with a professor. Mailhot decided to shift from fiction to memoir when she recognized that she was using fiction to explore her own truths and trauma. She found that “it was an audacious feeling to write a Native woman as gratuitous, even if it was ruining her—it empowered me…[but] I realized that I had been using the guise of fiction to show myself the truth, and the process of turning fiction into nonfiction was essentially stripping away everything that didn’t actually happen to me, and filling those holes left behind with memory.”

Terese Mailhot holding Heart Berries

                                       Terese Mailhot holding Heart Berries (Photo credit: TereseMarieM/Twitter)

Though nearly every chapter is grounded in her adult life—taking us from her first pregnancy to earning a Master of Fine Arts degree in fiction—she weaves in memories of her childhood. Memories of her mother’s death and learning how to dissect rabbits with her grandfather are entwined in a letter she wrote to Casey while in a psychiatric hospital. Her childhood often appears in hints, rather than fully-fledged stories, but as she pieces together memories, we learn of sexual abuse by her drunken father and her mother’s boyfriend; her mother leaving Mailhot and her siblings to fend for themselves for weeks at a time; and about her getting pregnant and married as a teenager to avoid foster care.

Though she writes openly about pain, Mailhot consciously avoids feeding stereotypes about American Indians. “As an Indian woman, I resist the urge to bleed on a page, to impart the story of my drunken father,” she observes. “It was dangerous to be alone with him, as it was dangerous to forgive, as it was dangerous to say he was a monster.” She’s intentional about how she talks about her father’s abuse and alcoholism because she doesn’t want to make him one-dimensional or shortchange herself by framing his story as subversive. So, Mailhot creates nuance by exploring her family’s personal trauma, so it’s clear their abuse isn’t inherent or pathological. Her mother was abused by many men during Mailhot’s childhood. Mailhot’s grandmother attended boarding school, a space of violence and forced assimilation. The transparency and nuance of their stories pushes against the tendency to pathologize American Indian struggle and trauma. 

Despite the generational and individual pain many women of color face, we are asked to silence ourselves, control ourselves, in order to be palatable. But women of color scholars and activists have long pushed back against these social impositions, reframing “negative” emotions as sites of power, energy, and knowledge. After all, as feminist author Mona Eltahawy wrote in an essay for NBC News, “angry women are free women.” Mailhot also recognizes the power of anger. “Today, in front of a slew of white authors…I said that I was untouchable,” she wrote. “There was a gasp, and maybe it was a hundred years of work for my name to arrive here, where I can name my pain so well that people are afraid of the consequences and power.”

Heart Berries isn’t a guidebook for handling mental illness or healing from childhood abuse and dysfunction. However, Mailhot is opening her wounds to encourage other women of color to share their stories and recognize the multiple truths of their lives. Mailhot doesn’t just name her pain. She shouts it, and in the process, creates a space for other American Indian women to do the same. 

by Abaki Beck
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Abaki Beck (she/her/hers) is a writer and public health researcher. She comanages a mutual-aid fund for formerly incarcerated people and runs a social justice resource website. You can find her writing in Bitch, Yes! Magazine, Health Affairs, and other outlets. She is Blackfeet and Red River Métis.

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