Sunday I joked to my husband that it was Father's Day, "Time for your lecture from the President!" But it's only a joke to us because my daughter's dad is in her life and that we have the "ideal" family going here. It's not a joke that far too many kids are living without their fathers. And I don't mean not living in the same home, but kids who can't remember the last time their dads came around to say hi. I have too many men and boys in my life who just don't know their dads.
The fact that the Father in Chief spends a lot of time talking about how important fatherhood is is amazing. He praises the strength of his mom and the grandparents who raised him, but you can tell that he still has a hole where Dad would be:
In many ways, I came to understand the importance of fatherhood through its absence—both in my life and in the lives of others. I came to understand that the hole a man leaves when he abandons his responsibility to his children is one that no government can fill. We can do everything possible to provide good jobs and good schools and safe streets for our kids, but it will never be enough to fully make up the difference.
That is why we need fathers to step up, to realize that their job does not end at conception; that what makes you a man is not the ability to have a child but the courage to raise one.
But how do we go about promoting fatherhood? I have issue with the motives behind some of the fatherhood movement despite having awesome PSAs.
I just got "The Daddy Shift" in the mail to review. I'm only through the introduction and I love it. Jeremy frames the book and the shift towards active and engaged fatherhood in feminist terms, not in the "we must reclaim our sons!" patriarchal bull shit we get in other places. I'm looking forward to the rest of the book and of course reporting back here!