Oh Joy Sex Toy: The Sexy Photos Primer

Erika Moen
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I’ve been producing webcomics since I was 15 and doing it full-time as a professional since the age of 25 at Periscope Studio in Portland, OR. My work has been published by Dark Horse Comics, BOOM! Studios, Image Comics, Fantagraphics, Last Gasp and Villard, among my many self-published projects as well.

Oh Joy Sex Toy is a weekly comics series that graphically explores sex and sexuality. This week, artist Erika Moen lays out the basics of how to share sexy photos without crossing any ethical boundaries. 

the comic lays out the rules for sending sexy photos—never share them without consent, don't send them if you're under 18, and make sure the person who's receiving your photo actually wants to see it.

Read a bunch more Oh Joy Sex Toy comics, including one about the joys of reading and drawing erotic comics

Want more from Erika Moen? Oh Joy, Sex Toy: Volume One is 268 pages of sex tips, interviews, sex toy reviews, and more! Get your autographed copy at BitchMart.

Here is a text transcription of the comic to make it more accessible for people using screen readers. Transcription by Morgan Kelly.     

Erika begins this comic, a primer on sexy photos, by declaring, “From steamy love letters, to phone sex, to cybering, people love fucking from long distances! So it was only natural that the naughty selfies would become a staple of sex in the age of cell phone cameras.” Two people are standing in their underwear snapping photos of each other on their phones. Erika continues, “Just like all other sexual acts, sending and receiving risqué photos is an act of intimacy, trust, and sexual stimulation between consenting partners.”

A person with short dark hair looks excitedly at their phone, “Woo! This is a banging photo, time to hit send!” Erika holds her hands up cautiously, “Now hoooold on, friend! Let’s run over some Sexy Selfie Basics so you can know-” then in large cursive lettering, “How to Selfie like a Boss.”

A large sign announces, “Sexy Selfies are for Adults Only. ALL participants MUST be over the age of 18.” Erika explains in an accompanying caption, “There are serious legal consequences for any naked photos that are exchanged between people where anyone is under 18. Creating/sharing/possessing any photos of a minor is legally CHILD PORNOGRAPHY, a felony! (Even if it’s consensually from one 17-and-a-half-year-old to another.) Don’t get incarcerated or have to register as a sex offender because you swapped naughty pictures with your high school sweetie!”

Erika appears again, “Ok, we cool? All the minors pulled their phones away from their junk? Awesome, now lets talk about-” then in large cursive lettering, “Consent.” The person with dark hair receives a message on their phone, they look repulsed and shout, “AUGH gross!!! I didn’t ask to see this.”

Erika explains, “Just like all sexy activities, consent among all parties is a MUST! You want that special someone to be HAPPY when they get a picture of your goods-” Several people are illustrated texting excitedly, their messages read, “I’m so hard 4 U right now…” “Pics or it didn’t happen!” “Wanna see my tits?” “Yes, please!” “I wish I could see your pussy right now.” “Ask and ye shall receive!” Erika continues, “—so you need to get confirmation that they want to see ‘em before you send ‘em.” Then in prominent bold lettering, “NO SHARING” Erika then continues, “NEVER EVER share a naked photo that you received consensually unless you have explicit permission.”

Erika looks very stern as she says, “There are NO excuses.” The person with dark hair whines, “But my evil ex-partner did something horrible to me!” Erika responds, “I’m sorry to hear it.” The person cries out, “Time for JUSTICE!” Erika says, “That, friend, is absolutely not an acceptable excuse for violating them sexually by publicly sharing those selfies.” The person responds, “But I OWN these photos and can do what I want with my property.”

Erika harshly says, “Nope! They shared that with you as an act of intimacy and trust, but you do not own their body and making it available (even photos of it) without their consent is not only a sexual violation but also means you are a garbage person!” The person looks downcast as they say, “You’re right, I’m mad and hurt but I’m not a garbage person.” Erika puts her hands on their shoulders and says, “I didn’t think so!” An accompanying caption reads, “Also, if you’re ever asked to delete those pictures, DO IT.”

A decorative headline reads, “Use your noggin and take precautions.” Erika is standing in the foreground of several sexy photos, she says, “Listen, shit happens. There is risk to this activity. If your life will have profoundly negative consequences if a naughty selfie of you gets shared, then hide your distinguishing characteristics. No face shots! Leave out the obvious birthmarks! Photoshop out them tattoos, and piercings!” A caption reads, “But EVEN THEN. Photos can have hidden information in their data that may still lead back to you, so realize there’s ALWAYS gonna be risk.”

The final frame of the comic depicts Erika winking while she snaps a sexy selfie and sends it to Matthew, they are standing in front of a background of sexy photos. The caption reads, “In closing, there’s nothing quite like getting a saucy photo from your sexy someone.” Erika says, “It’s flirty! It’s sexy! It’s fun! It’s a quick naughty thrill to turn on your partner from a great distance – and it’s a boner-inducing ego boost to know someone was thinking dirty thoughts about you. My personal motto is to assume that any naked photo of you has the possibility of being seen by someone you didn’t intend to share it with – so make sure you only take SUPER HOT ones.”

 

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6 Comments Have Been Posted

This is brilliant.

In the early 90s, as a student health advocate at the Evergreen State College, conducting, for example, safer sex workshops in the dorms, I could not have imagined the specific challenges of the mobile technology age, regarding sound sexual boundaries and behavior. I am grateful that this is a resource I can share with my daughters. (Besides which, it is HILARIOUS.)

Thank you.

Awesome

What a great finish!

funny n amazing

too much funny post.

Image descriptions

I love to share these on my FB, and they are always really popular. So gender fluid inclusive!

However, it would be awesome if you could provide image descriptions at the end, to copy and paste for those who cannot see them? Would love to have more disabled folks included, too! Thank you!

Thanks for the idea!

I'll talk to Erika and see if she can provide us the text of the scripts for these comics so we could run them together.

This is awesome!

In the digital age we live in, this needs to get out there! Students in middle school and high school are sexting, but are completely unaware of the possible consequences. I think this sort of comic/graphic should be a staple in sex-ed classes in this day and age.

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