Size Matters: It's So Hard to Say Goodbye

Tasha Fierce
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Tasha Fierce is a writer living in the occupied Tongva territory known as Los Angeles. You can follow them on Twitter at @tashajfierce and read more of their work on their website.

Well, fats and nonfats, it's time for me to get my fat ass on a horse somehow and ride into the sunset. I hope you enjoyed this blog, or at least learned something from it. It would be great if you now have a better understanding of fat acceptance/size acceptance and how to treat fat people (as humans, of course). I'd love if the fats reading this feel more empowered now than before this blog began. Lofty goals, maybe, but I'd like to think we reached them. I appreciate the feedback I've received from people who have changed the way they think as a result of this blog. It balances out the pushback we've experienced from would-be fat shamers and concern trollers.

For fat people, I want you to know that just because representations of fatness in pop culture skew towards the negative, it doesn't always have to be that way. We can let media creators know that we expect better from them by refusing to interact with media that doesn't portray fat people positively. We can stand against the constant barrage of celebrities hawking weight loss plans and diets that simply lead to a vicious circle of weight loss and regain. We can demand access to fashionable clothes in our sizes from designers and corporations that would rather pretend we don't exist. We can exist as we are and not hide from our image-obsessed society. Just by staking our claim to be treated like a human being, we are bringing the revolution.

And for nonfats, your privilege affords you access to things fat people are excluded from—like humane treatment, the ability to walk into pretty much any store and find your size, the luxury of not having the constant barrage of anti-fat propaganda directed at you, the ability to interview for a job and not worry that your weight might be a factor in whether or not they hire you, and countless more benefits of thin privilege. If you want to be an "ally" to fat people, you must challenge and unpack your privilege. You must be an advocate for fat acceptance and refuse to let fatphobic comments pass under your nose without recognition. A tall order, yes, but it's the same as not allowing racism to go unchecked, or homophobia, or sexism.

If you're interested in reading more of my work, you can find me on Twitter as @redvinylshoes, blogging at Red Vinyl Shoes, I Fry Mine in Butter and after Friday, at Zora & Alice. I'm also part of the Grey's Bloggers here on Bitch doing a roundtable every Friday on Grey's Anatomy.

Thank you for reading, listening and participating in this discourse. Peace.

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11 Comments Have Been Posted

Thank you.

Thank you.

Tasha, thank you so much for

Tasha, thank you so much for this series. You really opened up my mind.

I think there's a typo

"refusing to interact with media that doesn't portray fat people negatively"

Should the "negatively" be "positively?"


Thank you so much for your strong, clear voice. I'll be sure to follow you at

I'm going to miss this blog

I'm going to miss this blog so much! As a fattie who has recently started accepting myself for the awesome person I am, I've found this blog to be a great place to go when I need a boost in my confidence and convictions. I work in a call center, and the two girls seated closest to me are complete fitness and diet junkies, constantly talking about how many calories they've consumed, and their latest workout regimens. And while I appreciate their dedication, it sometimes makes me feel like a freak for not caring about losing weight. It has been immensely helpful to be able to come here, to a place populated by like minded people. Thank you so much!

Thx Tasha!

I'm a non-fat, and I just have to say that this blog series has really helped me see my size privilege, which up until now had been just SO easy for me to ignore. You really helped break down a lot of concepts for me and now I see fatphobia everywhere and am calling out my friends who use it. I'll definitely read your other blogs too!

Thank you. This blog has not

Thank you. This blog has not only been empowering, informative and interesting, it was also very well written and fun to read. You definitely influenced my thoughts and opinions on the matter of fat acceptance (and, for me, thats a good deal about self-acceptance as well). Thanks.

Thanks, Tasha! This series

Thanks, Tasha! This series was wonderful. Challenging, definitely inspired some of the more spirited discussions on here, to say the least. It definitely provoked me started to change how I think of the word "fat" as a -- "nonfat" I guess I would be termed by most? I've got major body image issues myself but at least I've started to think of the word "fat" as more of a neutral descriptive term.

why you gotta go?

just when it was getting good, you're signing off? i L-O-V-E your take on things, so will gladly follow you to other urls. don't ever stop writing and sassing, miss fierce.

will BITCH be bringing on someone new to take up the fat talk? i would absolutely totally 100% love the opp/gig, if you're lookin', kelsey wallace ;)

for other smart takes on fat and pop culture, your fans might love as i do lesley kinzel's <a href="">fatshionista</a>; and there's often great size-related talk at <a href="">racialicious</a>.

The media preys on all

The media preys on all women's insecurities, fat and thin alike. And, as you have pointed out, fat mostly.

Sure, making a conscious decision to not feed into it is important. But I think it's more than that.

It's about not feeding the divisiveness to begin with.

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