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Ask Bear: My Family is Trying to Guilt Me Into Talking to My Abusive Dad

A reader's family disapproves of them no longer having a relationship with their dad. “You'll come around,” they say.  Read more »

Ask Bear: What If My Relationship Has An Expiration Date?

A couple gets along great, but one of them is planning to move thousands of miles away. What do you do? Read more »

Ask Bear: Can My Boyfriend and Me (and His Kid and His Ex) Make a Home Together?

Adventures in cohousing! A reader asks for advice on moving in with their boyfriend who currently lives with his ex and their kid.  Read more »

Ask Bear: My Future Family-In-Law Is Causing Wedding Drama

You can have as non-traditional a wedding as you want, says Bear, but some people will still be frustratingly terrible people.  Read more »

Ask Bear: Everything is Fine. So Why Do I Feel Like a Total Loser?

I have a job and friends and a place to live. But I feel like I missed about a billion steps to adulting? Read more »

Ask Bear: My Friends Say I Can't Take a Joke

A reader wonders if they're humorless and “too sensitive” and should try to lighten up.  Read more »

Ask Bear: How Do I Talk to My Partner About Nonmonogamy?

No wonder you're anxious to bring up the topic—our culture tells us relationships only work one way.  Read more »

Dear Bear: My Partner Makes No Money. Is That a Problem?

Our advice columnist offers a lesson in anticapitalist self-care.  Read more »

Ask Bear: Do I Have to Be Friends With People I Disagree With Politically?

Nope, says Bear. Save your energy for the people who nourish you. Read more »

Ask Bear: I Don't Want to Spend 2016 Feeling Bad About My Looks

“Trying to make you feel like you’re not cute enough is a multi-billion dollar industry.” Read more »

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Dear Bear: My Partner Makes No Money. Is That a Problem?

Our advice columnist offers a lesson in anticapitalist self-care. Read more »