BDSM

Mastering Life: How BDSM Is Teaching Women to Become More Assertive

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by Margaret Andersen
June 12, 2019 at 12:32pm
The negotiation skills that you learn through BDSM will carry over into your everyday because relationships, whether romantic or professional, always require communication to be successful.

Neither Slave Nor Pharaoh: Finding the Divine in BSDM

by Randa Jarrar
January 4, 2018 at 9:00am
To be Muslim is to be one who submits. Read more »
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This “GLOW” Is Better Than Your Shade: BDSM Consent Done Right

by Cassidy Dawn Graves
August 16, 2017 at 8:52am
BDSM is not just about the safeword. Read more »

The Pleasure Dome: The Highs, Lows, and Blows of Casual Sex

by adrienne maree brown
July 11, 2017 at 11:15am
Orgasms, dating apps, pleasure, healing, and identity—let’s talk casual sex. Read more »

New Memoir "Sex With Shakespeare" Explores a Fetish and the Bard

by Karla Kane
April 8, 2016 at 8:58am
“I’ve spent most of my life thinking about two things: Shakespeare and spankings,” says author Jillian Keenan.  Read more »

This Is What Consent Looks Like at a Kink Festival

by Caitlin Donohue
October 5, 2015 at 10:50am
At the Folsom Street Fair, BDSM aficionados pose with stickers that say “Ask First.”  Read more »

Oh Joy Sex Toy: BDSM Safety Basics

by Erika Moen
March 10, 2015 at 11:10am
Oh Joy Sex Toy is a weekly comics series that graphically explores sex and sexuality. This week, guest artist Abby Howard gives us the rundown on some BDSM basics.  Read more »

Does Kinkphobia Color Criticism of "Fifty Shades of Grey"?

by Catherine Scott
February 17, 2015 at 1:22pm
After nearly three years of writing about kink, feminism, and pop culture, I’m so tired of talking about a certain novel that I now make a point of only referring to it as “that book.” Criticizing Fifty Shades of Grey on either feminist or literary grounds is pretty much like... Read more »

Oh Joy Sex Toy: 50 Shades of Grey

by Erika Moen
February 10, 2015 at 5:30pm
Oh Joy Sex Toy is a weekly comics series that graphically explores sex and sexuality. This week, artist Erika Moen reads 50 Shades of Grey. Read more »

Oh Joy Sex Toy: DIY BDSM

by Erika Moen
October 1, 2013 at 1:17pm
In Oh Joy Sex Toy, intrepid comics artists experiment with an aspect of sex and illustrate the result. This week: The couple behind Try It, You’ll Like It shares some... Read more »

Safe Words: The history of anti-abuse activism in BDSM

by Megan Lieff
July 31, 2013 at 3:28pm
This article appears in our 2013 Fall issue, Gray. Subscribe today! For years I would jokingly explain to my confused, nonkinky friends that the site FetLife “is just Facebook for us perverts.” Then, in the summer of 2012, I began seeing FetLife’s name in the headlines of blogs that for the... Read more »

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