BDSM

Thinking Kink: Safewords

In light of the Daniel Tosh firestorm this week, I probably don’t need to make the point that joking about sexual abuse is harmful, not funny. However, in the context of kink, a subculture that... Read more »

Thinking Kink: Is Vanilla Sex Boring? Who Gets to Decide?

As kink continues to infiltrate the mainstream media so does its accompanying lingo, and one of the terms that’s bugging non-kinksters is “vanilla.” As folks who’ve fought against negative labels themselves, should BDSM practitioners quit bandying around this term? Or do we just need to... Read more »

Thinking Kink: Secretary and the Female Submissive

A decade before 50 Shades, closet kinksters were finding a way to come out via Steven Shainberg’s exercise in office S&M, Secretary. While this tense and sexy movie may have avoided coming off like a bad porn script, did Secretary do much to challenge the... Read more »

Thinking Kink: No, Female Submission Doesn't Mean Oppression

This is the second part of a two-part series on female submission and oppression. Read the first post here. The woman who admits to enjoying sexual submission often finds herself stuck... Read more »

Thinking Kink: Does Female Submission Mean Oppression?

Before I even get into the thorny issue of how the media represents female sexual submissives, I want to lay some groundwork and represent feminists on both sides of the debate: Is the female submissive who consensually participates in BDSM empowered or betraying the sisterhood? Read more »

Thinking Kink: Did Jared Leto and 30 Seconds to Mars Do BDSM Better?

A wise soul suggested that, if I wanted to see BDSM imagery meet pop culture, I should take a look at 30 Seconds To Mars’ video for their song “Hurricane.” Watch Jared Leto getting kinky, you say? Oh, well, if you insist. The things I do for this blog… ... Read more »

Thinking Kink: Did Sex and the City Get BDSM Right?

Sex and the City broke serious ground in the late ’90s when it was lauded for its frank and open discussions of sex—by women, no less!—without taking itself too seriously. But did it ever manage to move beyond the media’s often cartoonish portrayals of BDSM? Read more »

Thinking Kink: Debunking BDSM Myths

“Like most things that are depicted in a problematic way, BDSM is subject to uninformed sweeping generalizations about what it looks, acts and feels like,”says writer Stacey May Fowles. Indeed any subculture can find itself badly misrepresented, especially when the media gets involved. So before we... Read more »

Thinking Kink: Welcome to a Blog on BDSM, Feminism and Pop Culture

In 1957, Elvis asked us to “Put a chain around my neck and lead me anywhere” in the song “Let Me Be Your Teddy Bear.” Fifty-five years and a whole lotta writhing, panting, and spanking later, pop culture’s fascination with BDSM still knows no bounds. So why, in the jaded, post–50 Shades... Read more »

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