Naming Fears: Vivek Shraya on Vulnerability as a Tool for Transformation

What if saying “I’m afraid” was just as much of a statement of resilience as “I’m not afraid?”

Turning 20: How An Iconic ’90s Film Normalized Stalking

Humor that takes stalking seriously requires nimbleness and nuance. Read more »

Not As Free: “Grown-ish” Reveals the Dating Woes of Young Black Women

Dating struggles are often indicative of the racist politics of desirability. Read more »

The Pleasure Dome: Use Your Words

Practice, practice, practice liberating the language of your desire. Read more »

Douchebag Decree: “The Bachelor” Is Bad

There is no decency to be found in reality TV. Read more »

Meet Your Match: 7 Dating Apps For the LGBTQ and POC Community

These apps have the potential to make dating better than Tinder. Read more »

Bait and Switch: The 7 Best Episodes of “Catfish”

What a mess. I couldn’t stop watching if I tried. Read more »

I Want You, But I'm Triggered: Finding Pleasure When Trauma and Memory Collide

Triggers happen. Here’s what to do when trauma threatens to disrupt your pleasure. Read more »

It's About Your Game: Flirting to Find Your Authentic Self

A lot of us don’t know how to articulate what we really want. Read more »

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