No Foes, Real Friends: “Insecure” Has a Love-Hate Relationship with the Classic Marriage Plot

In a time when there are more single adults in America than ever before, it’s depressing to see Insecure suggest that Issa requires this much contrived romantic failure to justify her realization that a man won’t “fix” her life.

Naming Fears: Vivek Shraya on Vulnerability as a Tool for Transformation

What if saying “I’m afraid” was just as much of a statement of resilience as “I’m not afraid?” Read more »

Turning 20: How An Iconic ’90s Film Normalized Stalking

Humor that takes stalking seriously requires nimbleness and nuance. Read more »

Not As Free: “Grown-ish” Reveals the Dating Woes of Young Black Women

Dating struggles are often indicative of the racist politics of desirability. Read more »

The Pleasure Dome: Use Your Words

Practice, practice, practice liberating the language of your desire. Read more »

Douchebag Decree: “The Bachelor” Is Bad

There is no decency to be found in reality TV. Read more »

Meet Your Match: 7 Dating Apps For the LGBTQ and POC Community

These apps have the potential to make dating better than Tinder. Read more »

Bait and Switch: The 7 Best Episodes of “Catfish”

What a mess. I couldn’t stop watching if I tried. Read more »

I Want You, But I'm Triggered: Finding Pleasure When Trauma and Memory Collide

Triggers happen. Here’s what to do when trauma threatens to disrupt your pleasure. Read more »

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