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Preacher's Daughter: Women in Country and the Construction of Femininity

There’s a script for women in commercial country music that doesn’t necessarily coincide with more mainstream stereotypes and assumptions about women. If you’ve ever heard Carrie Underwood’s ubiquitous 2007 single, “... Read more »

We're All Mad Here: Dating While Crazy

Common perceptions of mental illness and relationships suggest that mentally ill people do not belong in relationships, do not deserve love and affection, and are even dangerous to marry or get involved with. Not for nothing are undesirable prospective partners “crazy bitches,” are former partners... Read more »

BitchTapes: Breakup Mix #3

My friend Nicole and I commiserated over her recent break-up last night. We talked, we ate, we imbibed…..but most importantly, we had a rock-off with YouTube, our mp3 collections, and every break-up song we knew – the good, the bad, the ugly, our favorites, and some must-have... Read more »

Keeping Close to Bad Taste: Virgin Mobile's "Crazy" Commercials

It seems that irrelevant talking animals are not the height of commercial vogue, leaving extra room for the gems Virgin Mobile has been bombarding me with at every break. And by “gems,” I mean they’re abso-freaking-lutely awful in every way. Take a look: Read more »

BitchTapes: Torch Songs for Broken Hearts

You know when a break-up hurts so much that you think no one else could possibly understand how you feel? Torch songs understand. They feel your pain, and they channel it through the voices of like-minded torch-bearers who can sing much better than you can sing, and who are willing to do it for you... Read more »

The Dating Game: Three Things to Never Put in an Online Dating Profile

I have, as mentioned, a rather personally fraught relationship with online dating. Catching too many of my supposedly monogamous partners using personal ads to cheat on me left me pretty thoroughly unable to commit to the process. And, when it comes... Read more »

The Dating Game: The Other Woman, And Why She Isn't Your Enemy

The person with whom you have decided to have a monogamous relationship owes you fidelity, as you owe that person the fidelity you also promised. If that person breaks that promise, I can guarantee one thing: he or she made the choice to do so. Read more »

The Dating Game: Sluts Don't Get to Be Happy

If you haven't heard, there's only one possible result when you're a "slut"—particularly if you have the audacity to do it without shame and—clutch your pearl, ladies—talk about it in a public forum. NO RING FOR YOU! Who would want the cow when he can have the milk for free, we're told (because,... Read more »

The Dating Game: One Isn't The Loneliest Number

There is no such thing as The One. There, I said it. No fairy godmother is going to come down and give you fancy One-seeking slippers, there's not some other higher-power-created other half of you waiting equally wistfully for you to walk into his or her life, and there's no ultimate, perfect... Read more »

The Dating Game: The Three Date Rule

The "three-date rule" is stupid. So's the five-date rule, the six-month rule and any other rule that someone's told you should govern the time in your relationship that you choose to engage in physical intimacy. The problem is that, in sorting through all the messages of when you should or should... Read more »

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