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The Dating Game: The Disclose Act

Too often, people worry that if they expose the truth about themselves, the other person won't like them or understand... so they hold the truth back until they're convinced the other person likes them enough that the reality of whatever they were convinced was unlikeable will pass by unnoticed.... Read more »

The Dating Game: Sex, Commerce And The Fraught Question Of Who Pays For A Date

I always felt weird about the dynamic of men paying for dates by rote: even when I didn't have much money, my preference was to go somewhere I could afford to split or find something to do that we could both afford. But it took a guy's behavior to really enable me to explain in graphic detail why I... Read more »

The Dating Game: End Game (Or Ten Ways Not to Dump Someone)

There's nothing like trying to create a 10-point guide of how not to be a disrespectful immature jerk when dumping someone to make me think of the far more than 10 disrespectful immature jerks who have dumped me. My pain will hopefully be someone else's gain. Read more »

The Dating Game: Say My Name

When I stopped being a "girl," and stopped dating "boys," it felt weirder and weirder to be somebody's "girlfriend" or have a "boyfriend." But, man, do people hate having to alter their vocabulary to match your relationship. Read more »

The Dating Game: Coming Online

I know that there’s a book called The Rules, but the real truth about dating is that there aren’t any. Read more »

OkCupid has less-than-OK policies. Especially if you're "ugly."

Bitch tipster alert! According to a trusted source (one of our sharpy-sharp readers), OkCupid, the popular (and free) online dating site, has a semi-secret policy that favors those who have been deemed the most attractive. Say what!? Not OK, Cupid. Read more »

B-Sides: When Breaking Up is the Best

NPR did a segment on break-up songs. Tigerbeatdown devoted a week on the subject. And Thao Nguyen... Read more »

Merry Christmas! Here's some stereotypes ... but no take-backsies.

Dating can be confusing -- especially when one or more parties links emotional milestones to consumerist signifiers. And yet ... somehow, the solution is probably not to buy cheap accessories at Target. Read more »

Bed, Bitch & Beyond: Revenge is Ours

We have an endless fascination with tales of women and revenge, from cheating husbands forced to grovel in public to a little well-executed arson in an evil ex's home. But while schadenfreude makes for fun reading, does the media's rush to cover stories of public payback help perpetuate stereotypes... Read more »

BitchTapes: Breaking Up is Hard to Do

Break ups can be a real bitch, can't they? Wouldn't it be nice if both parties could just go their separate ways, cordially, without rancor, and without, say, the desire to take a Louisville slugger to anyone's headlights, to make harassing phone calls at dinnertime, name-calling, jealousy,... Read more »

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