Relationships

Annabel Gat on Astrology, Heartbreak, and Embracing the Unknown

It’s not so much about our birth or the stars dictating how we love, flirt, and fuck. Instead it’s about wanting to understand the hows and whys of the ways we navigate our relationships.

Mastering Life: How BDSM Is Teaching Women to Become More Assertive

The negotiation skills that you learn through BDSM will carry over into your everyday because relationships, whether romantic or professional, always require communication to be successful. Read more »

Coexisting Desires: Nola Darling Finally Gets Real with Herself in “She’s Gotta Have It”

Nola Darling understands that trauma porn is a tactic often used to beef up the work and lives of Black women for clicks and scholarships, but it is also demeaning. Read more »

Boss Butch: “Gentleman Jack’s” Warm, Irreverent Take on 19th-Century Lesbian Desire

Gentleman Jack is unquestionably fun, but it also doesn’t set out to be an unconditional empowerment fantasy. Read more »

A New Origin: Joan Morgan Changes the Narrative of Black Women’s Sexuality

Finding and sustaining pleasure is crucial to living a good feminist life. Read more »

Less Fear, More Queer: What’s Missing from a New Book on Sex, Shame, and Christianity

Shameless gives queer people little space to talk about their own visions of healthy, spiritual sexuality. Read more »

Unfit for the Altar: Black Women Make Their Own Marital Rules

We are often the providers, protectors, and bosses. This, we are told, is why Black women are half as likely to marry as our white... Read more »

I Thought My Immigrant Mother Would Never Accept My Queerness. I Was Wrong.

It was the most devastating moment of my 26 years on this earth, that phone call. Read more »

Who Is Valentine’s Day For?: Finding Space Beyond Hetero Holiday Traditions

Carving out space for LGBTQ-specific V-Day observance requires mainstreaming a sanitized version of queerness. Read more »

The Weird and Wild World of Reddit Relationships

It’s not surprising that people turn to the internet for relationship advice. Read more »

Remembering When Reno Was the Divorce Capital of America

In the 1930s, the city of Reno, Nevada, shined like a beacon of hope to the unhappily married. Read more »

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