Relationships

Ms. Opinionated: All the Advice You Asked For, and Some You Didn't

Welcome to the fourth installment of “Ms. Opinionated,” Bitch’s new advice column, in which readers have questions about the pesky day-to-day choices we all face, and I give advice about how to make ones that (hopefully) best reflect our shared commitment to feminist values—as well as advice... Read more »

Ms. Opinionated: All the Advice You Asked For, and Some You Didn't

Welcome to “Ms. Opinionated,” Bitch’s new advice column, in which readers have questions about the pesky day-to-day choices we all face, and I give advice about how to makes ones that (hopefully) best reflect our shared commitment to feminist values—as well as advice on what to do when they... Read more »

Bridal Party: In Support of Ceremony!

We spend a lot of time in the handful of decades that we exist in this world being told things and telling things. But there are comparitively very few moments when we allow our pretenses to drop and we come together to share something honest, and complex, and for many of us a little (or a lot)... Read more »

Introducing a New Series on Love and Afrofeminism!

My name is Spectra, and I’ll be your resident Cupid for the summer. Kinda. I’m a Nigerian writer, women’s rights and media activist, and editor at the afrofeminist blog Spectra Speaks, which publishes news, opinions, and... Read more »

Lady Business: Breaking News! Women Like Marriage and Work

The Pew Research Center offers startling, groundbreaking numbers on “Today’s Woman” who “often balances her career with her husband and children.” (Yes, this is a study from 2012, not 1975.) It is called “A Gender Reversal on Career Aspirations: Young Women Now Top Young Men in Valuing A High... Read more »

Double Rainbow: Tony Attwood tells us to "make lemonade."

Well, he tells non-autistic people to make lemonade, specifically. Guess who the “lemons” are in this metaphor. Popular fiction both shapes and reflects cultural attitudes. In a previous post, I picked... Read more »

The 99%: Money Can't Buy You Love (and it Might Get in the Way)

Shows like The Bachelor and Millionaire Matchmaker not only reduce romance to opulent displays of consumerism and gender conformity, but they distract us from actual consideration of the role of class in relationships and the need to negotiate those differences on a real, ongoing... Read more »

The 99%: Champagne Toasts and Caviar Receptions: Buying the American Wedding

Yet, as a proportion of their annual incomes, the Kardashian kouple may actually be more reasonable than many other Americans. In 2007, the average cost of the American wedding was over $28,000; while the recession caused a bit of a dip for a few years, the price is now... Read more »

On Our Radar

Let’s face it, sometimes real life is just the moments between reading blogs. “This is what sets Pariah apart from (white) singular-narrative LGBT films; it debunks the myth that life begins and ends between the point of self-acceptance, and a wedding.” Spectra Speaks... Read more »

We're All Mad Here: Dating While Crazy

Common perceptions of mental illness and relationships suggest that mentally ill people do not belong in relationships, do not deserve love and affection, and are even dangerous to marry or get involved with. Not for nothing are undesirable prospective partners “crazy bitches,” are former partners... Read more »

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