Relationships

Bed, Bitch & Beyond: Shock and...Yawn.

My fellow bitches, let's talk about sex! Welcome to Bed, Bitch and Beyond, a frank and wide-ranging look at sex and relationships from a positive, feminist, non-judgmental, liberal--and liberated--viewpoint. And we welcome your viewpoint and experiences too. As we say in my native South, "y'all... Read more »

The Media and The OBAMA MARRIAGE

Wedding season is upon us again, but instead of focusing on that bridesmaid's dress fitting your cousin will kill you if you don't attend, why don't you focus on the only marriage that America cares about? You guessed it, the OBAMA MARRIAGE (that's right; it's in caps because it is so unbelievably... Read more »

(Trans)Gender and (Gay)Marriage: All Kinds of Complicated

Well, well, well. Look who's joining the pomo party now that we're post-postmodernism. Why is the New York Times always so late to the game? Read more »

Show me the money, honey!

One of my tasks here at Bitch headquarters is to open the mail and keep an inventory of the books and CDs that are coming in for possible review. Today I arrived at the office, tired and doped up on DayQuil, needing a basket in which to place all of my angsty eggs and I found that basket in this... Read more »

Anne Hathaway Just Another Casualty of Bride Wars

After seeing Bride Wars, it makes some measure of sense that Anne Hathaway would mount such a spirited defense of her role in it. Hathaway is, in fact, the only life that this film has. Hathaway's... Read more »

Prop 8...

Before I go any farther, let me say I'm glad Obama won. I feel like if queer folks don't say that first, there will be a backlash against our community that will be painfully unprecedented. So, again I say: I am glad Obama won. I'm disgusted to live in California, a state that refuses to give me... Read more »

Assorted thoughts on Pride, weddings, and capitalism

Last night I went out to my neighborhood queer bar, the White Horse Inn, to see the East Bay Kings put on the most kick-ass drag show ever. It was not only the runup to the enormous Pride festivities in San Francisco, but also the farewell performance of Neil Down, who is seriously out-of-control... Read more »

And now for a sexy conference

This weekend, June 13th to June 15th is Sexy Spring, Minneapolis's radical, sex/body positive, sex education skill-share and conference. The event is focused on exploring the ways sex, sexuality, relationships, our bodies, and our choices affect our lives. It's a weekend full of workshops,... Read more »

Shelf Lives: Paging Through Feminism’s Lost & Found Classics

In the 1976 cross-country race film The Gumball Rally, the late, great Raul Julia rips off his rearview mirror and tosses it over his shoulder, saying "What's behind me is not important." 
 He didn't win the race. 
 Maybe that's because what's behind us actually is important. Feminist literature... Read more »

"Subversion on a Massive Level": Gender as Constructed Spectacle

When I rented Sleep With Me, I was expecting a silly angst-ridden Gen-X romantic comedy. I’d read the back of the box, so I knew that Joe and Sarah were married but that Frank, Joe’s best friend, was in love with her. Instead of an entertaining but benign and forgettable 90 minutes, I... Read more »

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