Relationships

Love as Political Resistance: Lessons from Audre Lorde and Octavia Butler

We don’t learn to love in a linear path, from self to family to friends to spouse, as we might have been taught. We learn to love by loving. We practice with each other, on ourselves, in all kinds of relationships. Read more »

Lane Moore Wants You To Feel Good: A Pre–Valentine's Day Chat With the Host of Tinder Live!

“A lot of my jokes could be done by someone of any gender. I’ve never been interested in, like, ‘I’m a woman, as you can see, and here are my ladyjokes.’” Read more »

Serena Williams Got Engaged to Reddit's Cofounder: Why Bigots, Black Men, and Feminists Care

At some point during the past decade, Hollywood decided that mixed couples just aren’t controversial anymore. The reality tells a different story. Read more »

Oh Joy Sex Toy: Get Tested!

Oh Joy Sex Toy is a weekly comics series that graphically explores sex and sexuality. This week: getting regularly tested is part of being a considerate, responsible sexual partner. Read more »

Kathleen Collins's Posthumous Short story collection "Whatever Happened to Interracial Love?" is a long overdue treasure

Collins never avoids complexity or difficult emotions; she’s unafraid of ambiguity, and her stories don’t provide easy conclusions or simple interpretations. Read more »

Appetite for Destruction: "Werewolf" Tackles Addiction and Toxic Masculinity

In her debut full-length film, Ashley McKenzie crafts a quietly devastating story of addiction, recovery, and relapse that portrays its subjects with both compassion and blunt honesty. Read more »

Ask Bear: Should I Tell My Friends and Family I'm Poly?

Good for you that you were able to recognize love when it came along. Read more »

Ask Bear: My Boyfriend Hates Leaving the House

He likes to stay in. I like to go out. Will we just make eachother unhappy forever? Read more »

Ask Bear: I Think My Friend Is in a Downward Spiral. How Do I Help Her?

“Make lots of time and space for conversation to happen.” Read more »

Performance Anxiety: Why I’m Here to Watch Drake Worship Rihanna

Black women deserve to be loved out in the open, away from the shadows where darkness often conveys shame. Read more »

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