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The Dating Game: Sluts Don't Get to Be Happy

If you haven't heard, there's only one possible result when you're a "slut"—particularly if you have the audacity to do it without shame and—clutch your pearl, ladies—talk about it in a public forum. NO RING FOR YOU! Who would want the cow when he can have the milk for free, we're told (because,... Read more »

The Dating Game: One Isn't The Loneliest Number

There is no such thing as The One. There, I said it. No fairy godmother is going to come down and give you fancy One-seeking slippers, there's not some other higher-power-created other half of you waiting equally wistfully for you to walk into his or her life, and there's no ultimate, perfect... Read more »

The Dating Game: The Three Date Rule

The "three-date rule" is stupid. So's the five-date rule, the six-month rule and any other rule that someone's told you should govern the time in your relationship that you choose to engage in physical intimacy. The problem is that, in sorting through all the messages of when you should or should... Read more »

The Dating Game: Sex, Commerce And The Fraught Question Of Who Pays For A Date

I always felt weird about the dynamic of men paying for dates by rote: even when I didn't have much money, my preference was to go somewhere I could afford to split or find something to do that we could both afford. But it took a guy's behavior to really enable me to explain in graphic detail why I... Read more »

The Dating Game: Anything You Can Do, I Can Do Better (Including Dating Way Younger)

I hate the term “cougar.” I mean, I also hate “MILF” and anything else that attempts to define older women or those that have have had children as inherently unfuckable—and thus the rare few supposedly worthy of placing a man’s dick in as special—because, damn it, I have no intention of... Read more »

The Dating Game: Out-Match'd

The first time I realized that the then-ubiquitous online personal ad banners on websites serviced real people—lots of them—was when I caught my boyfriend of two and a half years using one in 2002. Read more »

The Dating Game: End Game (Or Ten Ways Not to Dump Someone)

There's nothing like trying to create a 10-point guide of how not to be a disrespectful immature jerk when dumping someone to make me think of the far more than 10 disrespectful immature jerks who have dumped me. My pain will hopefully be someone else's gain. Read more »

The Dating Game: Say My Name

When I stopped being a "girl," and stopped dating "boys," it felt weirder and weirder to be somebody's "girlfriend" or have a "boyfriend." But, man, do people hate having to alter their vocabulary to match your relationship. Read more »

The Dating Game: Coming Online

I know that there’s a book called The Rules, but the real truth about dating is that there aren’t any. Read more »

The Lady Is a Tramp: I Heart Cassandra Wilson

With that voice—and her incredible phrasing–Wilson can turn almost any song into a standard for the America Songbook. Read more »

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The Dramatic History of American Sex-Ed Films

In 1948, in a seventh grade classroom in Eugene, Oregon, a teacher dimmed the lights and flipped on 16mm projector. A film called Human... Read more »

Tina Belcher's Sexual Revolution

Tina Belcher breaks all the rules of network sitcoms. That's why she's wonderful.  Read more »

Why You Should Pay for Porn

If you’re a progressive middle-class individual, chances are you think about where your food comes from. Maybe you try to buy shoes that are... Read more »

In a Bizarre 1976 Comic Book, Spider-Man Fought the Villain of Misleading Sex Education

Last week, I came across a very strange comic book: in 1976, Planned Parenthood teamed up with Marvel to publish a one-off comic in which... Read more »